10 Ways to Find Mom Friends

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You have work friends, high school friends, and college friends, but what about mom friends? With so many women choosing to have children later in life, or not having them at all, it’s hard to find girlfriends who can relate to your mommy side.  No one better understands the trials, tribulations, and humor of parenting a newborn than others who are doing the same thing. That’s why it’s so important to reach out to other mamas. Spend a naptime searching for mom groups, and dive right in. You aren’t alone, and groups like this will remind you of that.

1. Breastfeeding Support Groups

Between La Leche and hospital groups, you’re sure to find a gaggle of ladies who get together to chat all things breastfeeding and babies. For my breastfeeding advice see Top 10 Breastfeeding Must-Haves and How I Stored 300 Ounces of Breastmilk in 3 Months.

2. Hospital New Mom Groups

Many hospitals offer a time and place for new moms to gather. My hospital’s new mom group provides guest speakers on topics from college savings plans to home safety. Give your hospital a call to see if they offer a similar service.

3. Gymboree Play and Music

Though pricey, Gymboree is tons of fun. The music, puppets, and parachute put a smile on H’s face. Classes incorporate discussion among parents to help you get to know one another. The first class is free, so give it a try to see if it’s right for you and your babe.

4. Little Gym

Believe it or not, Little Gym accepts babies as young as 4 months old. The classes focus on body awareness and movement. They’re quite affordable, and some locations are free for the first few months.

5. Swimming Pool

Baby-mommy swimming classes are a surefire way to meet other moms. If taking a full-blown swimming class isn’t your thing, look for pools with time set aside for open swim for babies. It’s easy to meet other moms with so many adorable waders splashing around.

6. Baby-Friendly Aerobics Classes

StrollFit classes cater to moms of all fitness levels and enable you to bring your baby along. If you don’t have StrollFit classes nearby, don’t fret. Many gyms offer baby-friendly exercise classes. Mom friends who sweat together, stay together.

7. Neighborhood Organizations

When H was born, I didn’t know any young moms in my neighborhood. A Google-search led me to discover a thriving local moms group. I now have oodles of activities on my calendar. Search Facebook, too, to find mommy organizations in your area.

8. MeetUp.com

MeetUp is a giant network of local groups. You can easily search for playdates in your area and sign up to receive emails when new playdates are formed. Through MeetUp, I discovered Hip Mamas St. Louis, a group with over 90 members.

9. Library Story Time

Story time is a good excuse to get out of the house and meet new people. Ask the mom next to you if she wants to grab coffee afterwards. It may feel like you’re asking her on a date, but that’s kind of what making new friends feels like.

10. Mom’s Club

Mom’s Club is an international organization. Each local chapter has its own personality, but most of them offer playdates, mom’s night out, and Facebook groups you can turn to with parenting questions. No Mom’s Club in your area? Consider starting your own chapter.

Making new friends can feel awkward for anyone. Just remember that the other moms are in the same boat you are. They’re out and about to meet people too, so why not be the first to speak up. Your babies provide you with plenty of conversation starters and entertainment.

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Farewell, Stretch Marks: Beauty Tips for New Moms

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Beauty may be the last thing on your mind when you’re diapering, feeding, and cuddling your new one 24 hours a day. Do yourself a favor: give Dad or Grandma a chance to hold the baby, and take a few minutes — or seconds — for yourself. Call me crazy, but I think feeling good about your appearance helps you be a better mom. The following beauty tips make me feel if not beautiful, at least human.

Wear Your Hair Natural

What a time saver that natural, messy hair is popular right now. Take advantage, mama! Throw some product in your hair and let it air dry. As a curly haired gal, I’ve tried every curl-enhancing gel on the market since New Kids on the Block was popular. I can tell you with utter confidence that Aveda Be Curly Enhancer is the best product for my curly or wavy sisters. It gives curls definition without making them hard and crusty. Use Aveda Be Curly from root to tip to keep your locks bouncing and behaving.

Tackle Stretch Marks 

When it comes to stretch marks, I’m not going down without a fight, and you shouldn’t either. I recently bought Palmer’s Cocoa Butter due to its rave reviews on Amazon. I’m a huge fan. Apply it liberally and often, starting during pregnancy if it’s not too late. My stretch marks look much better, but beyond that, the cocoa smell is to die for.  Be warned: if you put it on before bed, you’ll nod off craving chocolate. Worth it.

Lotion Those Hands

Changing dozens of diapers and washing bundles of bottles wreaks havoc on your poor skin. Before your knuckles dry and crack, apply hand lotion multiple times a day. For me, it doesn’t get better than good old fashioned Nivea Hand Cream, but whatever floats your boat will do.

Wear a Little Makeup

Don’t judge, but I apply makeup on days I don’t even leave the house. I can’t help but conceal those dark circles, even if the only person I’m impressing is my newborn with blurry baby vision. For advice on a quick day look, I turn to Carmindy’s book The 5-Minute Face: The Quick & Easy Makeup Guide for Every Woman. Involve your baby in the morning makeup routine by stroking his cheeks and hands with makeup brushes — it’s sure to elicit smiles.

Be Kind to Yourself

Avoid the temptation to see your altered body as a burden. Yes, you probably weigh more than you did before you gave birth. Yes, you probably have less time for primping. But, confidence is beautiful. You’re keeping a newborn baby alive and happy; nothing can give you more confidence than that.

If you’re the type of lady who needs a good workout to feel beautiful, the Nike Training Club app is a must have for a new mom. Learn more about it at 5 Apps for Pregnant and New Moms.

Lipstick, workout, or none of the above, just remember pretty mama, through your newborn’s eyes, you’re the most gorgeous woman in the world.

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Photography by Andy Wise.